I would love to sit here today and write about how the road to recovery is easy and straightforward. That it's as simple as following a step by step plan, and once you learn the steps, it will be smooth sailing.
I would love to tell you that, and I wish that were the reality of it, but unfortunately, it's not.
One of the most common traps I see clients getting stuck in is the - I'll start tomorrow/Monday/next week/when my kids go back to school/when I get over this stressful period of my life - the list really is endless.
Last week we talked about how much our emotions drive our daily choices and habits when it comes to food and the way we eat.
However, emotions are not the only reason we find it hard to put down the fork long after we are full. Certain foods themselves have a mighty control over our inability to say enough is enough, despite how hard we try to stop.
Only once we truly understand what drives us to eat, are we then able to change the behavior. If we are not just eating to simply fuel our body, then we need to go within in and find out why we are eating beyond hunger.
Sometimes the path towards food freedom can feel more like a tightrope; fearful that the slightest shift will send us flying off course.
In our attempt to resolve our issues and strained relationship with food, we often feel the only answer is to create maximum restraint over ourselves and our environment. Unfortunately, living under this level of control only sets us up for inevitable failure and ultimately damages our self-esteem and confidence.
Have you ever notice when you want something big, you initially get super excited with the thought of having it. But then when you actually take a minute to think about what it would take to get it, or how it might drastically change your current situation - you slowly start to fill with fear and dread, and before long the excitement you once had, has faded away and you begin to give up on the idea altogether.
We've all been there before - It's late at night our day is done, and although you should be getting ready for bed, you find ourselves staring deep into the cupboards and fridge like a hungry raccoon searching for some tasty treat. Before you know it, you are in full-blown late night binge mode, stuck without an off switch.
Your brain is more powerful than any choice you may have when it comes to getting its way. It has figured out what foods it feels are best for your survival, and it will do whatever it has to, to get these foods.
Just because something is edible does not remotely make it nutritious for you in any way. Foods or "fake foods" as I like to call them have been designed to be as hyperpalatable (meaning super addictive) as possible to get you hooked and coming back for more. You are literally paying to buy junk that is gonna keep you trapped and prevent you from losing weight.
For many of us, it's not as simple as just changing the foods we eat to lose weight. When we use food in ways other than its intended use, we first need to look into the "why" behind the reasons we do this before we can make the changes we need to make.
If you're reading this I'm guessing you can relate and have also tried it all. It wasn't until years later, and after tons of research, education and personal growth and development did I finally find an answer.
Think about a time you have gone on a binge, have you ever binged on kale. Have you ever said omg I am so craving a huge bowl of kale right now. I’m going to go out on a limb right now and say, I don’t think so.
My constant need to make others happy was taking a massive toll on me, and I was paying for it with my physical and mental wellbeing. With my health and happiness at an all-time low, I knew I needed a change In a big way.
The pressure to live up to all these cluttered beliefs can feel like an impossibly daunting task, with no end in sight. For a lot of us, life seems to be more of a coping act than a joy-filled experience.